As children become increasingly computer literate, keeping your child off of the internet is no longer an option. The internet is an extremely valuable tool, which children can use for research, entertainment and other activities. However, with this type of freedom also comes some significant risks. Instant messaging is not in itself dangerous to children, though it may potentially expose your child to very dangerous situations. Here is some general information about how you can protect your child, without banning them from using instant messaging programs.
What is Instant Messaging?
By definition, an instant messaging interface is an online method of communication between two or more people that is based on the exchanging of text-based messages. There are many programs that support this type of communication, including:
- Yahoo! Messenger
- Google Talk
- AOL Instant Messenger (AIM)
- Skype
- IMVU
- ICQ
- Windows Live Messenger (MSN Messenger)
- Xfire
In addition to this, there are many web-based chat rooms that also support the exchanging of private chat messages between two or more members of the chat room. These chat rooms usually do not require the installation of any software, though some of them may require browser add-ons in order to function properly.
Why is Instant Messaging Dangerous for Children?
To put it simply, it is not the instant messaging client that is dangerous to a child. Many children can responsibly use instant messaging software to communicate with friends or relatives that they do not see on a regular basis. However, it is the fact that many children have a need for constant social interaction which may provide the risk. When presented with such a versatile and widely used chat interface, a child may abandon other social activities and use this type of interaction as a replacement.
In addition to this, your child may begin trying to portray an “idealized” image of themselves to people they may meet online. The aspect of online anonymity is appealing to children, since many children, as they enter adolescence, begin to become self-conscious about their appearance, weight, hair color, etc.
Perhaps the most obvious danger to children which is presented by instant messaging is the risk of being exposed to people who may wish your child harm. It is a very common occurrence for pedaphiles or child sex offenders to use an anonymous online identity in order to solicit the attention of children. They may pretend to be another child, which may make your child think they are a “friend”.
What are some of the Danger Signs?
If you suspect that your child is using instant messaging in a dangerous manner, there are many signs that you can look out for. This includes:
- Using their computer after the rest of the family has gone to bed.
- Staying up for more than three hours simply to use an instant messaging client.
- Closing or minimizing chat windows when other family members are in the room.
How Can You Protect Your Child?
Aside from completely banning your child from internet chat rooms and instant messaging clients, there are several things that you can do to better protect your child. This includes:
- An “Adult” discussion about the dangers of the internet.
- Installation of parental monitoring software on your child’s computer.
- Constant supervision of your child while they are online.
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